We all remember the Golden Rule? “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”
This saying goes far beyond simply being kind to people, or going out of your way to help those in need. It's really more about adjusting your views and attitudes.
Instead of just: treating others the way you would want to be treated, thinking about others the way you would want to be thought of, feeling about others the way you would want others to feel about you and speaking to others the way you would want to be spoken to or spoken of, you need to adjust your views and your attitude.
You should focus less on punishing those who cross you and rather guide them into a better frame of mind. Teach them not only the error of their ways, but the error in their thinking. This is not about been condescending, or trying to convert anyone, but a way to understand how we get from thoughts to actions.
If someone believes he/she is doing the right thing by trying to control another person, or becomes invasive in a person’s life, first we need to try and understand how that person thinks his actions will get him the desired result.
Then we can help him evaluate the consequences and perhaps steer him towards choosing a better way to achieve his goals. [read more]